There are a few things to ask about the mindfulness of God towards Adam for the choice of Eve as his wife, but so many heart-searching questions concerning the relationship between Adam and Eve before their expulsion from the Garden of Eden. God brought a helper in whom Adam was very delighted and admitted being the bone of his bone and the flesh of his flesh. By this confession, Adam acknowledged that she was the perfect will of God as his wife. By the way, God brought a helper meet for Adam, meaning she was his perfect match. Every good and perfect gift comes from God. As it is written, he who finds a wife, finds a good thing, and obtains the favor of God. Proverbs 18:22. It was not a disservice done to Adam to find a helper fit for him. By divine favor and goodwill, Adam had a wife, a helper by his side. Both of them were equal before God as regarding the foundation of their making (dust), and the source of their existence (God's breath) but unequal in two different things: (a) the position of creation, meaning, Adam was first formed and established in the garden before the arrival of Eve: (b) the responsibility and authority of Adam over Eve and over the things created: And the Lord God took the man, and put him into the Garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it with instructions and one restriction. And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou may freely eat: but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shall not eat of it: for in the day that thou eat thereof thou shall surely die. Genesis 2:15-17. Adam’s authority was undisputed by God, who is the source of his wisdom and power to give names to everything made or created. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all the cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found a help meet for him. Genesis 2:19-20.
When God brought Eve before Adam, we learned of the two rules of marriage (a) the forsaken and attachment. Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Genesis 2:24: (b) mutual physical sexual acceptance, appreciation and intimacy: And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. Genesis 2:25. Adam submits to Eve and Satan's words instead of his submission to God’s word and will. Just as King Ahab sold himself to Jezebel to do evil in the sight of God, foolish men and women are alike to reason one another out of the word of God to destroy themselves. His unreasonable defense to charge God for the error of his foolishness showed his ungratefulness to God for a wife instead of owning up to his mistake. Genesis 3:12. Did Eve force the fruit into Adam's mouth to eat? No. Adam indirectly accused God of handling him a wrong wife, though he had once acknowledged divine goodness and perfection in her as the bone of his bone and the flesh of his flesh. Little foxes spoil the vine. Solomon 2:15. A rebellious spirit will ruin any marriage. Self-interest will ruin any marriage. Listening to the outsiders, like Eve listened to the serpent's deception, will ruin any marriage. If you cannot keep what you have received from God, who then is to be blamed for your irresponsibility, thoughtlessness and foolishness? Adam couldn’t keep the Garden and Eve couldn’t keep her marriage. Sapphira, the wife of Ananias, could have been spared from premature death and hell fire, if she had chosen wisely to dissociate herself from the sin of her husband. Acts 5:8. Adam had the opportunity to lose his marriage to Eve, who had first eaten the fruit. By doing so, he should keep his relationship with God, but he acted foolishly to eat what was offered, though forbidden by God. Wrong and false spiritual interests and the pursuit of different spiritual goals contrary to God’s plan, play a crucial role in their fall and expulsion from the presence of God. It was a personal choice made. The serpent did not force Eve; neither did Eve force Adam to act against the will of God to pursue after the lusts of the eyes, the lusts of the flesh, and the pride of life. 1John 2:15-17. Note: God showed Adam his folly of hearkening to the voice of Eve against the warning given by sending him back to the dust after his stay on earth. Adam and Eve failed in their marriage, not because they were not a perfect match for each other, but because of the wrong choice made against the word of God. Anyone who fails in his relationship with God fails in everything. A wise man will not bow to any pressure or compromise with anyone to lose his relationship with God. You might fail in other things or in your marriage if your spouse betrays you or turn aside from following the Lord, but keep your relationship with God intact just like Job did in his trials and affliction. The first parents fell, and their marriage failed because they gave birth to their kinds - corruptible children, and not in God's kind like they both were before the fall. Though a couple lived together like Adam and Eve after their fall but were not in the will of God, such a marriage is a failure in the sight of God. If we do not take heed to the things which we have heard, lest at any time we let them slip, we shall practically fail in everything that is good, acceptable, and perfect will of God. How then can we stand perfect and complete in all the will of God? Colossians 4:12.
Eve was made to complete and complement Adam, not to compete or compare herself with him. She was made to support, not to subdue or control Adam. There was one that controlled Adam, God. His word controlled Adam, and by the word of God, Eve ought to live. Why did he relinquish his leadership to Eve's and the serpent's hands? Why did he ever listen to his wife to teach him to do contrary to what he received from God? By the word of God, man should bear rule in his household. Esther 1:22. His wife should not be allowed to rule over him. Isaiah 3:12. Evil women fight and seek to rule over their husbands against the order of God, while the daughters of Zion willingly and prayerfully trust God in submission to their head. Genesis 3:16. Adam failed to rule a single woman. Why should God entrust the entire human race into his hand? The devil has already snatched the leadership of the world away from him. 2 Corinthians 4:3-4. Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. 1Timothy 2:12-14. They were not made and built with the same strength, but made for the same purpose of supporting each other and to populate the earth. If they should compete and compare as if they are equal in strength and power and in purpose, they should be devoured one by another because they shouldn't have been together at first instance to help one another if they were both equal in all things imaginable. God found certain physical insufficiency in Adam to give him a wife. A roofless house is an uncompleted building, leaving it open to the elements. A man does not need a woman much more than a woman needs a man. Both man and woman are valued and contribute equally to the relationship for its stability and growth according to the grace of God upon them. The strength of a relationship lies in the interdependence between partners where they both contribute to each other's happiness and well-being. The heavens, even the heavens, are the Lord’s: but the earth hath he given to the children of men to replenish and to multiply on it. Genesis 1:28. Psalm 115:16.The wise woman is a crown to her husband, but a disgraceful wife is like decay is his bone. Eve was the wife of an evil influence in Adam’s life because he allowed her, but then seeks to put the blame on God. Proverbs 12:4. What could have happened if Adam refused to fall with Eve? There are several possible scenarios. (A) Eve should have died alone, bearing other consequences of her foolishness alone before God: (b) their marriage should have been dissolved by God because the spiritually living and the spiritually dead has nothing in common: (c) God would have removed Eve from continuation in the relationship with Adam because she kept not herself in the love of God to prevent mingling and corruption of their seed to put difference between the clean and the unclean, the same way he refused their stay in the Garden to prevent to eat from the fruit of the tree of life lest they should live forever in the state of corruption. 2 Corinthians 11:2. Adam destroyed what God desired to birth through him; hence the second Adam was sent forth to do the reparation work. A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. Proverbs 14:1. Eve destroyed what God intends to accomplish through her. Hence, Mary was chosen by God to bring the seed of Eve, that is, Christ, to die, redeem and deliver us from the hands of Satan.
Eve was not made to be a bone in Adam’s throat and to send him to his early grave – a killer wife. Proverbs 12:4. She was supposed to be a supportive and like-minded helper to Adam because she was made from one of the ribs of Adam’s side. Why was she alone on the day of her temptation and willful sin? Was it the first time she encountered the serpent in the Garden that she fell? Why couldn’t she call Adam’s attention to the present of the serpent instead of her dialogue alone with the beast? Why did she choose to eat the fruit without the awareness of her husband? The serpent has sown rebellion in her heart to beguile and destroy her. Where was Adam when the serpent was persuading his wife to eat the fruit? Of course, when certain things fail in a relationship, people will say they were not meant to be together. How would they not fail when individual pride and covetousness has taken over by seeking for their selfish interests, instead of allowing God to have his ways and will be done in their lives? Adam’s appreciation of God’s goodness and kindness should have been shown by his loyalty to God who gave him Eve as a wife, not the other way round. Those who are not loyal to God have no claim of loyalty to humanity. They are the dangers and impediments for others to know or to follow after God. For our rejoicing is this, the testimony of our conscience, that in simplicity and godly sincerity, not with fleshly wisdom, but by the grace of God, we have had our conversation in the world, and more abundantly to you-ward. For we write none other things unto you, than what ye read or acknowledge; and I trust ye shall acknowledge even to the end; as also ye have acknowledged us in part, that we are your rejoicing, even as ye also are ours in the day of the Lord Jesus. 1 Corinthians 1:12-14.
Eve was brought to Adam because it was not good for the man to live alone. Genesis 2:18. Adam was not meant to live alone, but to fulfill the role of multiplication of people on the earth with Eve according to the eternal plans of God. Some men, like the Apostle Paul, are given the grace to live a celibate life by self-imposed choice of consecration unto God, avoiding and abstaining from sexual relations. 1 Corinthians 7:7. Jesus made us know that there are individuals who are naturally incapable of sexual reproduction; hence, marriage is not important for such people because they were born eunuchs from the womb of their mother. There are some who are made eunuchs by men. These men are castrated; they can never have children while they live, often for reasons of servitude or other purposes. God has given each person a unique calling and gifting, and that each state, whether single or married, is a good gift from God. Matthew 19:12.
The creation of humankind is male and female. To marry is not a sin, it is good. The decision not to marry is not a sin either, it is better, except that you cannot have or enjoy sex. It is better to marry than to go to hellfire for unlawful sexual intimacy, which is the sin of sexual immorality. 1 Corinthians 7:9. Sex is reserved for marriage between a man and a woman. Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4. Genesis 2:19-20. The Lord shall judge and avenge anyone who covets and devours his neighbors’ wives, just as he severely punished David for Uriah’s wife he slept with. The sin of adultery shall ruin and dissolve any marriage. An adulterer or adulteress not only sinned against the Lord, but also sinned against her husband or against his wife. The civil governmental power established by God shall judge and condemn the guilty to dissolve the marriage on the grounds of sexual unfaithfulness. God will judge the unfaithful marital covenant breakers who defile his or her marital bed, and their shame shall never be wiped away. Proverbs 6:33. Sex is a holy emotional fellowship between a man and his wife. For the two, said he, shall become one flesh. It is designed to keep the bond stronger and the fire of affection burning if they are both sincere. We connect with God in the spirit while we emotionally connect with our spouse in the flesh. This is why lusting after another woman or man is considered and will be judged as if you’ve already committed the sin of adultery in your heart. Matthew 5:28. It is a sinful emotional desire and connection. Sex is uniquely meant for the husband and his wife, not wives. You can not be a Christian bisexual. You cannot be married to a wife living with you at home and sleep with another man outside your marital bed. Or, you are being married to your husband living with you at home while sleeping around with other women outside. You’ve made yourself a child of perdition. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempts you not for your incontinency. 1 Corinthians 7: 2-5. Sex is not for sale, but a marital right for the husband as well as for the wife. It is not to be used for control or emotional manipulation by anyone in marriage. If you are not ready for sex and the exploration of God-given pleasures in it, don't go for marriage. Do not use devotion to God to deprive your husband or wife of constant physical intimacy. Organize yourself. Your spiritual life should not destroy your marriage; neither should your marriage destroy your spiritual life. Do everything within your vineyard, but not anal sex. Anal sex is sexual perversion not permissible before God, though she is your legitimate wife. It is a wrong use for a wrong purpose. Can you put food into your nostrils or ears? Sex is not between one man and another man. It is homosexual. It is not between a woman and another woman. It is lesbianism. Such acts are an abomination before God and those that do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of heaven. Sex is not between two men and one female: neither is it between two females and one man. It is sexual rampart and disorder - sinful. Leviticus 18:23. Sex is not between a man and an animal. It is bestiality. Sex should not be with an inanimate object. It is mental sexual madness. Avoid masturbation. It is a sin of being carnally minded, and it is death. Pray and fast for the power of self-control. Self-stimulation opens doors for different spirits in your life. It is a sin of uncleanness and inordinate affection. These are sexual perversions; demonic and damnable in hell for eternity for the defilement of flesh and spirit, which are God's. Have you not read about the filthy dreamer who defiles the flesh? Sex is spiritual. It is God's gift of marriage, and children are his reward. This is the reason why an Israelite man must marry a young girl he found in the field but is not engaged to any man, but he knew her, must marry her, except her father's object. And if a man entices a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins. Exodus 22:16-17. You cannot just be sleeping with men or women around, not in the church or in the world. A brother or sister who does such things should be removed from the church if they can not be corrected by disciplinary action for repentance and change. I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators: yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world. But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such a one no not to eat. For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? Do you not judge them that are within? But those that are without God judge. Therefore, put away from among yourselves that wicked person. 1 Corinthians 5:9-13.
Adam and Eve were both naked and were not ashamed. This speaks of their spiritual innocence before the fall. It is only your wife or husband who should be seeing your nakedness. Not your adult children. It is an abomination before the Lord. Not your adult siblings anymore. Your nakedness is the nakedness of your spouse. Respect the nakedness of the person with whom you are now united in marriage together by not stupidly flaunting your nakedness around in inappropriate ways while you're with friends and relatives. If they are genuine children of God, they should know that clothing which does not cover the body appropriately and in a decent way brings shame to the Lord and to the spouse. This is called the clothing of a harlot. Proverbs 7:10. It is also called strange clothing, punishable by eternal death for its sinful influence to corrupt the hearts of others and misdirect negative effects on other people. Zephaniah 1:8-9. Do we seek to show off our body, so others can see our sexuality and attractiveness? It is called seduction. It is an indication that an evil spirit is at work in you. 2 Kings 9:30. Do we seek to show others that we are not out of fashion by conformity with the world in our mode of dressing? It is vain glory, for the fashion of this world passes away. 1 Corinthians 7:31. Do we seek to glorify God in our body by the way we dress because it belongs to him? It is the beauty of a great price having a great reward in heaven. 1 Peter 3:1-5. It is the responsibility of the godly husband to teach and show their spouse what to wear to bring honor to their home, but especially to God. Then Jacob said unto his household, and to all that were with him, Put away the strange gods that are among you, and be clean, and change your garments: and let us arise, and go up to Bethel; and I will make there an altar unto God, who answered me in the day of my distress, and was with me in the way which I went. And they gave unto Jacob all the strange gods which were in their hands and all their earrings which were in their ears; and Jacob hid them under the oak which was by Shechem. Genesis 35: 2-4.
Though they both had intimacy and daily fellowship with God in each cool of the day, the absence of spiritual intimacy between Adam and Eve was manifested. Husband and wife should pray together, but it is important for individuals to have personal devotional time with God. If they both shared the same faith and values, and found common ground in beliefs, they should not have fallen for the trap of the serpent. Adam's foolish action to disobey God showed his deep emotional intimacy with Eve, but a very shallow spiritual intimacy with God which eventually destroyed his marriage and relationship with God. This is the danger of false emotional attachment which every believer should overcome. Was there any evidence of a deep spiritual and intellectual intimacy between them? An individual's action in the fall reveal otherwise. Everything is not about sexual intimacy (physical closeness, hugging, cuddling, kisses and other forms of physical affection) in marriage. Do Adam and Eve have that deep spiritual and intellectual intimacy of shared interests and constant conversation to remind themselves of the will of God, the purpose of their residence in the Garden and the condition attached to the continuation of their existence to keep the enemy at bay? The answer was no.